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What other people have asked
We discuss the possibility of getting pregnant via a toilet seat.
Two 13-year-olds are worried about pregnancy after a precum incident.
A woman is having problems with dryness and pain during sex.
Her boyfriend has gone too hard on her vagina and now it’s really sore.
Her boyfriend had blood on his fingers after fingering, but then she got a fever and cramps and bad digestion. Are they connected?
A woman is having issues with a vulvar tear that has left her labia a bit flappy.
Is it shaving cuts, herpes or a yeast infection?
She’s got what seems to be yeast-related cuts on her vulva, but is that really what’s going on? We discuss.
She has a small piece of flesh inside her vagina, two inches in, which she isn’t sure about. What could it be?
She was fingered, and after it bled for a couple of days, but now there is a lump. Why?
A 19-year-old has jumped off a massive bridge, causing a tear on her vulva an inch long.
She was fingered and it was fine. Then she was fingered again badly and it bled, then next time fingered again pleasurably, but then it bled again – why?
Her boyfriend’s unpleasant fingering has left her with excessive bleeding three days later. What’s happened?
A woman is worried that her vagina may not be up to scratch after two years without sex and only masturbating.
A new wife is having major issues with vaginal tightness. We discuss what she can do to figure out what’s wrong and solve the problem.
A woman is struggling to understand her stress-related PCOS symptoms.
A 19-year-old is having anal sex with her boyfriend over vaginal sex to retain her virginity, but she’s not really getting off on it. We talk it over.
A mother is worried that her husband may have touched her daughter inappropriately. How can she find out what’s going on?
She cut her labia shaving – does she just leave it to heal or can she do something?
A 30-year-old woman has a well-endowed husband, and every time they have sex, her vagina splits. What can she do?
A 16-year-old is worried she is pregnant, even though she’s been safe. Is it possible?
Sometimes PCOS can be caused or exacerbated by stress. When we are very stressed and have a lot going on PCOS can get complex and it is hard to know where to start.
If her boyfriend had blood on his hands, does it mean her hymen broke?
She was fingered; it bled. She had sex; it bled. If her hymen is gone, then what is this bleeding all about? We discuss.
A 14-year-old guy is preparing for sex with his girlfriend for the first time, but is worried that he will hurt her.
A woman wants to know if her anatomical abnormality is fixable.
She has been having a lot of rough sex, and now there are lumps where cuts used to be – what is it? We investigate.
His fiance was in a hot tub, got a UTI, then a yeast infection, now she tore her labia masturbating. Is she cheating?
An HS sufferer wants to discuss laser hair removal as a management strategy for flare-ups.
She was fingered, but there was no bleeding, then two days later she is bleeding heavily. What is it?
Is she too tight or is there something else going on?
She had sex for the first time with her new boyfriend, but now he has a red, itchy, sore penis. What’s gone on?
She got finger-banged by her boyfriend with four fingers, which she likes, but now she’s sore and bleeding. We discuss.
She is experiencing severe cuts and tears for no reason. Could it be her NuvaRing?
She bleeds with one finger by herself, but not with sex. What on earth is going on?
She cut herself masturbating, but now the cuts seem to be infected. What can she do?
She has a tear between her labia after giving birth, but it’s too painful to even look at. What should she do?
A 16-year-old had sex, and has started bleeding and it won’t stop. How does she get her mum to take her to the doctor without telling her about the sex?
Aunt Vadge: I gave my boyfriend a BJ, then about 20 minutes later his penis touched my vag – can I get pregnant?
Can sperm survive when it’s dried, on a penis, and then get me pregnant after 15 minutes?
Her period is late. She had sex but used a condom – so what else could it be?
She has an over-sensitive vulva that feels like it burns and stings when she pees, and she’s dry all the time. What’s wrong?
Her uterus was removed and mesh inserted to hold it together, but there is now scar tissue around her uterus, and a tear on her urinary meatus that won’t heal. What can she do?
After sex, it hurts to pee and there is a brownish discharge. What’s happened and what should she do?
Every time she has sex with a condom, the next day, an unusual and unpleasant smell comes from her vagina. What’s going on?
A 24-year-old man wants to know how to give his girlfriend a vaginal orgasm. We review some ideas on how to get her there.
She was fingered for the first time, and now it stings when she pees. Why?
She’s scared of the pain of her hymen breaking and first sex. What should she do?
Can fingering bring on a period twice in one month? Short answer – no. We explain why.
She was fingered, and now her vagina is itchy. Plus, can a doctor tell?
How fertile is precum and did it get me and what if it did and am I ovulating? We discuss.