Aunt Vadge: I haven’t had sex for two years – is my vag ok?

Hi Aunty Vadge… 

I’ve been having sex for years, and now I have stopped doing it for the past two years. I do masturbate, but I’ll not insert anything into me.

Will Ms V to be back to normal? Will there be any effect due to masturbating?

Thanks for your kind advice.

Yours,
Concerned
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Hello Concerned,

If you’re wondering whether not having had penetrative sex for a couple of years will affect your vagina, the answer is generally no, the vagina won’t undergo any permanent changes from a lack of sex.

The vagina is quite remarkable in its ability to stretch and contract; it can accommodate penetration such as during sexual intercourse or tampon use and then return to its usual size.

There’s a myth out there that suggests vaginas can become “loose” or “tight” based on sexual activity or lack thereof, but this isn’t based on anatomical reality.

The tone and elasticity of the vagina are influenced by several factors, including genetics, age, hormonal status, and overall pelvic floor muscle tone, rather than the frequency of sexual activity.

No negative consequences arise from not putting anything into your vagina, including through masturbation. In fact, there’s no “normal” that you have to get back to — your vagina is a dynamic and adaptable part of your body precisely because it’s designed to be as such.

So to sum up: your vagina is unlikely to change in any negative way from not having sex, and masturbating is a healthy, natural way to explore your body and experience pleasure. Go for it!

Take care and happy sexing!
Aunt Vadge