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Aunt Vadge: dry vagina, possible EBV, nobody can help me – help!

A 71-year-old woman faces challenges with dry vagina and painful sex, possibly linked to Epstein-Barr virus and other health issues. Despite trying hormone creams, natural remedies, and lifestyle changes, she seeks effective solutions. This article explores potential causes and offers insights into natural and medical interventions to alleviate her discomfort

Aunt Vadge: I’m really scared of breaking my hymen

A young person expresses fear about breaking their hymen during first-time sex, seeking advice from Aunt Vadge. The response includes gentle stretching exercises, understanding the anatomy, and the importance of familiarizing oneself with one's own body to alleviate fear and pain associated with first-time sexual experiences.

Aunt Vadge: If I use two fingers or a carrot, it hurts – do I still have my hymen?

Many individuals encounter pain during penetration, questioning if their hymen is intact or if there's a deeper issue. Aunt Vadge explains that vaginal tightness, partial hymen existence, or anatomical abnormalities like vaginal septums could be the cause. Learning to relax, using lubrication, and gradual practice can help, but if pain

Aunt Vadge: is it herpes? Or something?

Aunt Vadge addresses concerns about a lump on the labia, explaining why it's unlikely to be herpes, discussing possible causes, and advising on next steps. The article demystifies symptoms and encourages getting medical records for clarity.

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Your vulva and vagina

What is inside my vagina?

We explain your anatomy, with diagrams, so that you can visualise what’s going on inside the bits you can’t see or touch. Learning what goes where means you can navigate using tampons, masturbating, and at some point, having someone else touch you.

The hymenal ring, remnants and tags

The hymenal ring, or hymenal remnants, are tissues located just inside the vaginal entrance, resulting from the stretching or breaking of the hymen. These tissues, also known as carunculae myrtiformes, can be sensitive and play a role in various medical assessments and procedures. They may lead to conditions such as

The vulva and vagina through ages and changes

From birth through to old age, the female body experiences significant transformations, particularly in the vulva and vagina. This article delves into the developmental stages, from the effects of hormones in the womb, through puberty, pregnancy, and into menopause, highlighting the natural changes and challenges faced at each stage. Understanding

How to feel your own cervix

Feeling your cervix can provide insightful information about your menstrual cycle and ovulation periods. This article guides you through the process of locating and examining your cervix, highlighting the importance of cleanliness, comfort, and understanding the physical sensations associated with different stages of your cycle.

Pelvic floor exercises overview

Training the pelvic floor muscles is crucial for maintaining pelvic health, enhancing sexual pleasure, managing stress urinary incontinence, and preventing prolapse. From Kegel exercises to biofeedback and electrical stimulation, this guide covers various methods tailored to individual needs, emphasizing the importance of a balanced approach to avoid overtraining. Whether you're

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Sex stuff

Can meditation improve your sex life?

Research has illuminated the profound impact mindfulness and meditation have on enhancing female sexual desire, reducing sex-related distress, and improving psychological well-being. This article delves into how mindfulness practices not only bridge the gap between mental and physical arousal in women but also contribute to greater sexual motivation and consciousness,

Persistent genital arousal disorder

Persistent genital arousal disorder (PGAD) is a sexual dysfunction condition characterized by spontaneous genital arousal without sexual desire, causing distress and embarrassment. The exact cause is unknown, but pelvic muscle tightness is a primary suspect. Symptoms include unprovoked tingling or throbbing that may last for hours or days. Treatment options

Aunt Vadge: he put the tip in – am I still a virgin?

Virginity is often seen as a black-and-white status, but the reality is far more complex. Aunt Vadge tackles the nuanced question of what constitutes losing one's virginity, debunking myths around the hymen and the outdated valuation of virginity as a measure of purity or worth. She encourages personal readiness and

What does it feel like for a girl? A flesh comparison

This article delves into the scientific concept of homologues, explaining how male and female genitals share similar tissues, such as the labia majora being akin to the scrotum, and the clitoris to the penis. It highlights the shared base cells from which human reproductive systems are developed, offering insights into

Sleep sexing – understanding sexsomnia

Sexsomnia is a rare sleep disorder characterised by the unconscious engagement in sexual activities ranging from moaning to full intercourse, with no memory of the actions upon waking. This condition, a type of parasomnia, affects an estimated one in ten people and can lead to aggressive sexual behaviour, legal issues,

What happens to your body and brain when you orgasm

Embark on a fascinating journey through the hidden world of orgasms, where science meets sensuality. Unveil the secrets of your brain's response to sexual pleasure, illuminated by cutting-edge imaging technologies. Explore how the dance of neurotransmitters like dopamine and oxytocin intertwine to amplify your experience, offering a deeper understanding of

How to perform cunnilingus on a woman

This detailed guide explores the art of cunnilingus, offering insights on preparation, communication, and techniques to enhance pleasure. From understanding female anatomy to mastering the perfect tongue movements, learn how to navigate the complexities of oral pleasure. Discover the importance of cleanliness, the power of anticipation, and the significance of

Female sexuality

Female sexuality encompasses a broad spectrum of experiences, including the journey from teenage years to menopause, the significance of masturbation, and the complexities of sexual response and dysfunction. With research shedding light on these aspects, understanding female sexuality is key to embracing a harmonious state of sexual health as defined

How do lesbians lose their virginity?

The concept of virginity in lesbian and queer relationships transcends traditional definitions, focusing on a variety of first sexual experiences rather than the presence of a penis. This article delves into how personal beliefs and intimate moments, from first orgasms to oral sex, shape the understanding of virginity among lesbians,

What does asexual mean?

Asexuality is not just about the absence of sexual attraction; it's a complex orientation involving romantic attraction, individual preferences, and the capacity for sexual activities. This article demystifies asexuality, addresses common misconceptions, and explores the spectrum of experiences within the asexual community, including greysexuals and demisexuals. It also offers insight

Aunt Vadge: my boyfriend touches me and I swell up

A young woman experiences significant swelling and discomfort in her vulva after her boyfriend touches her. The issue persists despite precautions, suggesting potential allergies or sensitivity. Aunt Vadge advises on gentler practices and exploring possible allergic reactions to find relief.

Getting dirty cleanly

Understanding sexual hygiene is crucial for preventing disruptive bacteria and infections in the vagina. This article delves into the importance of cleanliness during sexual activities, particularly anal play, and the role of proper lubrication, avoiding harmful products, and the potential dangers of certain contraceptives on vaginal health. It emphasizes preventative

Periods

Periods

To get you started on your periods, we’ve made a very simple period guide to start you and your period off on the right foot.

How to put in a tampon

Inserting a tampon can be daunting for first-timers, but it doesn't have to be. This guide breaks down the process into simple, pain-free steps, from selecting the right tampon size and style, using lubrication to ease the process, to finding the comfortable insertion position. Whether it's for menstrual care or

What is free bleeding?

Free bleeding, a term describing the act of menstruating without sanitary products, serves as a feminist statement against period stigma, the high cost of menstrual products, and their environmental impact. Originating from a failed anti-feminist hoax, the movement gained traction, highlighting the societal need to destigmatize menstruation and consider the

Causes of heavy periods

Heavy periods, or menorrhagia, can be caused by a variety of factors, including hormonal imbalances, uterine fibroids, and more. Understanding the underlying causes is key to finding the right treatment. This article delves into the complexities behind heavy menstrual bleeding, offering insights into both medical and alternative approaches to managing

Aunt Vadge: I yanked a tampon out and now it hurts

A first-time tampon user shares her painful experience of yanking out a tampon, leading to severe discomfort and potential vaginal damage. Aunt Vadge advises against harsh removal and highlights the need for medical examination to address any underlying issues such as vulvodynia or damage to the vaginal wall.

What your period blood colour and consistency means

The colour and consistency of your period blood can offer clues about your overall health. From bright red indicating a healthy period to dark, thick, or brown blood suggesting slower flow, and even pale, watery blood hinting at hormonal imbalances, this article delves into what various period blood characteristics might

What to do if you lose your tampon

Tampons can't get lost inside you, but losing track of the string can be worrying. Learn safe removal techniques and when to seek medical help for a tampon that's difficult to retrieve. Understand the implications of a tampon left inside and how to avoid potential health issues.

Review: VH Essentials PMS Daytime Symptom Relief – what is it and what does it do?

VH Essentials PMS Daytime Symptom Relief is a vitamin supplement aimed at easing PMS symptoms such as tension, irritability, and cravings, with a blend of Vitamin C, B6, calcium, and magnesium. Not FDA approved, it's designed for use in the week leading up to menstruation, promising improved mood and memory

What’s the difference between PMS and PMDD?

Understanding the difference between premenstrual syndrome (PMS) and premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) is crucial for proper diagnosis and treatment. While PMS symptoms are often physical, PMDD primarily affects mood and can significantly impact daily life. This article dives into the symptoms, diagnosis criteria, and treatment options for both conditions, helping

Study: How early life circumstances affect menarche and menopause

This article delves into the significant ways in which the circumstances of our early lives can predict key events such as the timing of menarche and menopause. It highlights the link between early periods, later menopause, and health risks such as breast cancer, while also exploring the role of factors

The facts about toxins in tampons

This article addresses common concerns about tampons, debunking myths about asbestos and dioxin, and highlighting the importance of choosing safe menstrual products. It reassures readers about the general safety of tampons while also acknowledging the risks associated with super-absorbent tampons and toxic shock syndrome (TSS). The piece encourages informed choices,

The smell of blood – why your period smells metallic

The metallic smell of period blood, often compared to the scent of coins, is not directly caused by iron but by the interaction of iron with skin oils or blood itself. This article explores the complex chemical reactions that lead to the creation of odorous carbonyl hydrocarbons, challenging common misconceptions

Period undies and swimwear

Period undies and swimwear are innovative solutions for menstrual management, offering an eco-friendly, budget-friendly, and comfortable alternative to traditional sanitary products. They are designed to let your period flow naturally, providing leak-proof, moisture-wicking, and antimicrobial benefits. With a variety of styles available, they cater to different needs and preferences, making

Infections

The most common infections are bacterial vaginosis and yeast infections, but there are many other infections too. 

Signs that you have an infection or overgrowth include discharge that seems unusual – it might be watery, smelly, chunky or coloured. No matter what, if you suspect an infection, see your doctor for a test. 

Can the BV treatment cause lactobacilli overgrowth syndrome?

Treating Bacterial Vaginosis (BV) aims for a temporary increase in lactobacilli, but concerns arise about leading to cytolytic vaginosis post-treatment. Factors like diabetes or high oestrogen levels can heighten the risk, yet managing lactobacilli overgrowth is feasible with appropriate vaginal pH adjustments.

What is genital shedding in herpes?

Genital shedding in herpes simplex virus type 2 (HSV-2) carriers is a crucial process of virus replication and transmission. A significant study reveals that carriers can infect partners during shedding, even without symptoms. Understanding the nuances of viral shedding, including its frequency and impact on transmission, is vital for both

Choosing the best birth control for you

Choosing the right birth control involves understanding the impact on your body and lifestyle. From STI prevention to hormonal and non-hormonal methods, this guide helps you navigate the options to find what works best for you, emphasizing the importance of being in tune with your body's needs and the potential

Why BV gets worse with your period – it’s not just pH

Bacterial vaginosis (BV) often flares up during menstruation not solely due to pH changes but significantly due to the iron in menstrual blood feeding bacteria. This iron availability strengthens bacterial biofilms, making BV symptoms more pronounced. Understanding this can change how you approach treatment, especially with the strategic timing of

Why you get a vaginal yeast infection after antibiotics

Antibiotics can often lead to vaginal yeast infections by killing off beneficial bacteria, allowing yeast like Candida to flourish in the gut and vagina. Understanding the connection between gut health and vaginal yeast infections is crucial for prevention and treatment. This article explores how dietary changes, probiotics, and antifungal treatments

Study: Lactobacillus attacks G. vaginalis biofilm

Recent studies highlight the power of Lactobacillus species, particularly L. reuteri RC-14, in attacking and dissolving the biofilms created by Gardnerella vaginalis. This breakthrough offers a promising alternative to traditional treatments that have failed to effectively combat the biofilms associated with bacterial vaginosis. The study showcases the specificity of the

Urethritis

Urethritis, defined as inflammation of the urethra, manifests through symptoms such as burning or stinging during urination, blood in urine, and frequent urges to urinate with little output. It's often caused by infections or irritations from external factors. Understanding its underlying causes, including urinary tract infections, pelvic inflammatory disease, and

Secnidazole (Solosec) for BV

Secnidazole, marketed as Solosec, is a potent antibiotic offering a new approach to treating bacterial vaginosis (BV) with a single dose. Clinical trials have shown its effectiveness to be on par with metronidazole, providing a significant reduction in BV recurrence for those experiencing fewer than four flare-ups annually. Its quick

Hormones and the Menstrual cycle

Part of the rest of your life is going to be managing the signs of your fertility – mopping up period blood, figuring out when you are probably ovulating, birth control, acne, moods. These signs of your fertility are all caused by hormones, which fluctuate in a predictable pattern across your menstrual cycle.

Hormones and the menstrual cycle

The menstrual cycle is a series of predictable hormonal fluctuations beyond just reproduction. This guide simplifies the cycle from hormones like oestrogen and progesterone to key events like menstruation and ovulation, offering insights into the changes your body goes through from puberty to menopause. Understand the signs of ovulation and

Do I have PCOS?

Polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) is a condition diagnosed based on the Rotterdam Criteria, requiring at least two of the following: irregular cycles, evidence of high androgens, or polycystic ovaries on ultrasound. Understanding these criteria and consulting with your doctor for a thorough assessment can help determine if you have PCOS,

What is relative oestrogen deficiency?

Relative oestrogen deficiency is a hormonal imbalance where oestrogen levels are low compared to other hormones, leading to symptoms like irregular periods, vaginal dryness, and infertility. This condition can be influenced by diet, exercise, body weight, and other factors. Understanding its causes and management is crucial for those affected.

How to fix PCOS

Managing Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) involves a blend of medical treatments and lifestyle changes. From the combined oral contraceptive pill to diet and exercise modifications, this article explores various strategies to alleviate PCOS symptoms. It highlights the importance of addressing the underlying causes, such as insulin resistance, through dietary adjustments,

What’s the difference between PMS and PMDD?

Understanding the difference between premenstrual syndrome (PMS) and premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) is crucial for proper diagnosis and treatment. While PMS symptoms are often physical, PMDD primarily affects mood and can significantly impact daily life. This article dives into the symptoms, diagnosis criteria, and treatment options for both conditions, helping

How diet impacts oestrogen levels

Dietary choices significantly influence oestrogen levels, impacting risks for conditions like endometriosis. High intake of saturated fats and low fibre are linked to increased oestrogen, while diets rich in green vegetables, fresh fruits, and low in animal fats can help maintain healthier levels. This article delves into how foods affect

Understanding unopposed oestrogen

Unopposed oestrogen, not counteracted by progesterone, poses significant health risks, such as increased cancer susceptibility, particularly endometrial cancer. It often results from oestrogen-only hormone therapy, obesity, and anovulatory cycles, especially prevalent in menopausal women due to changes in hormone production.

What are polycystic ovaries?

Polycystic ovaries are characterized by the presence of multiple cyst-like follicles on the ovaries, often associated with PCOS, affecting fertility and hormonal balance. While having some follicles is normal, more than 12 per ovary indicates a condition that can lead to symptoms like acne, irregular periods, and insulin resistance. Understanding

Birth Control and Contraception

While you might not need it right now, it pays to be prepared! Choosing birth control and contraception can be complicated, so get all the information before you need it. 

The first step when you’re starting out is to protect yourself with barrier methods to stop the transmission of unhealthy bacteria from vagina-penis, vagina-vagina and especially anus-vagina. 

Using the regular pill as emergency contraception

In situations of unprotected sex, the oral contraceptive pill can serve as an emergency contraceptive, similar to morning-after pills. A comprehensive list from Princeton University details the effectiveness of various brands when used within 120 hours post-intercourse. This guide covers the dosage and timing for both dedicated and regular oral

Choosing the best birth control for you

Choosing the right birth control involves understanding the impact on your body and lifestyle. From STI prevention to hormonal and non-hormonal methods, this guide helps you navigate the options to find what works best for you, emphasizing the importance of being in tune with your body's needs and the potential

Are Coca-Cola douches a good method of birth control?

In an intriguing dive into unconventional birth control methods, gynaecologist Deborah Anderson studied the efficacy of Coca-Cola douches as a spermicide. Despite historical claims of its sperm-killing properties, research reveals that not only is Coke ineffective at preventing pregnancy, but it may also pose significant risks to vaginal health, including

Contraceptive alternatives to the pill

While the contraceptive pill is a popular choice for many, it's not the only option. This article explores various alternatives, from IUDs to fertility awareness methods, detailing the pros and cons of each to help you make an informed decision. Whether you're looking for a hormone-free option or something long-term,

Body Confidence

Got a new boyfriend and BV? How to explain it

Discussing bacterial vaginosis (BV) or aerobic vaginitis (AV) with a new partner can be challenging. This guide offers practical advice on navigating these conversations with clarity and empathy, emphasizing the importance of factual communication and mutual understanding. It also covers the significance of safe sex and the potential impact of

Jewellery, tattoos, vajazzling and muff stylin’

Adorning the vulva with jewellery, tattoos, vajazzling, and unique hair styles has evolved into an accessible form of self-expression. From clitoral hood piercings to pubic tattoos, the options for genital art are vast and varied. However, it's crucial to choose experienced professionals for these procedures to avoid complications like infections

Vagina and penis are not dirty words: teaching kids about their bodies

Discussing genitals using their correct names with children is crucial for their safety, self-confidence, and to foster open communication. It's not just about body positivity but also about abuse prevention, helping children articulate discomfort or pain accurately, and preparing them for changes during puberty. The article emphasizes the importance of

Brazilian, French and American bikini waxing styles

Bikini waxing has evolved into a form of personal expression, with the Brazilian, European (often misunderstood as French), and American styles leading the trends. Each style has its unique history and cultural significance, from the Brazilian wax's Hollywood fame to the conservative approach of the American wax. Understanding the differences

The truth about vaginal tightness and looseness

The tightness or looseness of a vagina is a topic shrouded in myths. Contrary to popular belief, sexual activity and childbirth do not permanently alter vaginal tightness. The vagina's elasticity, similar to the mouth, allows it to stretch and return to its original state. Understanding pelvic floor muscles and their

Aunt Vadge: I lack sexual confidence – help!

Aunt Vadge addresses a common concern among many women - sexual insecurity. Through practical advice and compassionate encouragement, she guides readers on a journey towards sexual confidence, emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance, vulnerability, and positive action. Whether it's dealing with body image issues or fear of intimacy, Aunt Vadge offers

Vag Musings

Letters from the South – my vagina has feelings too, you know.

An exploration of how a woman's emotional turmoil and the stress of adapting to a new environment manifest physically, particularly in her pelvic area, leading to a profound realisation about the importance of emotional well-being and the courage to be true to oneself. Through a chiropractic revelation, she learns that

Letters from the South – a tale of birth control woe

In a revealing account of trying to access birth control in Clarksdale, Mississippi, the writer shares her experiences with the local health department's inefficiencies, from amusing interactions to the serious implications of receiving the wrong prescription. This personal narrative sheds light on the challenges faced when healthcare systems fail to

Jewellery, tattoos, vajazzling and muff stylin’

Adorning the vulva with jewellery, tattoos, vajazzling, and unique hair styles has evolved into an accessible form of self-expression. From clitoral hood piercings to pubic tattoos, the options for genital art are vast and varied. However, it's crucial to choose experienced professionals for these procedures to avoid complications like infections

Killing BV Success Story: my BV is gone!

A personal success story of conquering Bacterial Vaginosis (BV) using a specialized four-pronged treatment approach. After struggling with BV for over a year, the individual achieved a healthy vaginal pH and symptom-free life, highlighting the importance of targeted treatment and dietary changes.

How to make yoghurt with your vaginal bacteria

In a daring culinary and scientific experiment, Cecilia Westbrook, an MD/PhD-qualified scientist, created yoghurt using her own vaginal secretions, exploring the symbiotic community of lactobacilli that reside in the vagina. Despite its tangy taste, experts caution against potential health risks.

Understanding cissexism – are you a cissexist?

Cissexism occurs when individuals, particularly those who identify with their birth sex, fail to acknowledge or accept gender and sex diversity, leading to exclusion or ignorance towards non-binary and transgender individuals. This article delves into the definition of cissexism, its manifestations, and the importance of understanding sex and gender beyond

The story about how I bought vaginal tightening gel because my boyfriend had a small penis

Embarking on a personal quest to improve sexual compatibility, a woman turns to vaginal tightening gel as a solution to her relationship's physical mismatch. Despite her efforts, she learns that true sexual satisfaction comes from compatibility rather than adjustments. This story sheds light on the often unspoken challenges of physical

Vaginal massage: wtf?

Intrigued by an ad for Yoni Mapping, a form of healing vaginal massage, the author embarks on a personal journey to explore her relationship with her vagina. Through a session with Bonnie, a skilled practitioner, she experiences an intimate exploration of her body, leading to revelations about her pelvic health