What is an orgasm?

Orgasm is the peak eruption of pleasure from sex play. It is when you do enough nice things to each other in a row – or to yourself – and your body has a big, exciting response to it.

hose activities tend to be rubbing, licking, touching or using an object or another person’s body (like a penis or fingers) in a sexual way.

Can I orgasm?

Almost everyone is able to have an orgasm, but some people find it harder to get there than others. Some people may be anatomically unable to orgasm, but this is very rare, and may be due to a birth difference or a surgery or injury.

The mind has a lot to do with how easily we can orgasm, with anxiety or fear getting in the way. Young women may start to learn how to orgasm later on in life, whereas boys tend to figure it out pretty quick, with their easy-access penises.

Everyone benefits from masturbating – to learn how to orgasm by themselves.

The female orgasm

The female orgasm is the rhythmic contractions of muscles in and around the vagina and cervix, with feelings of extreme pleasure in the clitoris and in deeper tissues, depending on the orgasm and the stimulation.

There are a variety of different feelings with the female orgasm – some talk about a ‘vaginal orgasm’ or a ‘clitoral orgasm’, despite there being no precise definitions for these things, and technically, no such thing as either. An orgasm is an orgasm.

There are thought to be about 26 different ‘types’ of orgasm that a woman can experience – that’s pretty cool. If you take a look at the actual extent of the clitoris, you can see why.

We’ve put together a few videos about the orgasms so you can get a better idea of what’s going on.  

The male orgasm

Guys have orgasms and ejaculate, which are not always mutually exclusive though when you start out, you will generally see these two things happening at the same time – when a guy ‘cums’, semen squirts out the end of his penis.

This is full of live sperm, so before having any sex, investigate birth control and learn how to use a condom. A guy can have a ‘dry’ orgasm without ejaculation (and have multiple orgasms), or he can ejaculate without orgasm.

Orgasm releases lots of hormones and chemicals that make us feel good, some of which cause us to bond with one another, like oxytocin, and dopamine, which makes us feel happy. It’s like a drug, which is why people love sex! It makes us feel happy and connected.